Tuesday, November 03, 2026

The thought isn't "how do I grow this" anymore, it's "can I keep doing this." That thought isn't proof you're failing — it's proof you're carrying it alone.

It's the end of a long week, and the thought that shows up isn't "how do I grow this." It's "can I actually keep doing this." If you've had that thought recently, you're far from alone — 40% of US small business owners say they've considered giving up their business entirely (Xero Emotional Tax Return 2026, via CPA Practice Advisor).

That thought isn't proof you're failing. Most of the time, it's proof you've been carrying something heavy entirely on your own for longer than anyone should.

Asking For Help Isn't What Owners Do When They've Already Failed

There's a quiet idea that asking for help is something owners do once everything's already gone wrong — a last resort, an admission. It's the opposite. Asking for help, early and honestly, is what owners do to stay in the game long enough to actually build the thing they set out to build. The owners who wait until it's a crisis are the ones who run out of options.

The warning signs are usually boringly practical, not dramatic: you stop opening the P&L until the accountant chases you, you say yes to a client you'd normally turn down because you're tired of deciding, or you catch yourself hoping a problem resolves itself rather than picking up the phone. None of that means you're failing. It means you've been making every call solo for too long, and the fix is smaller than it feels from inside the week.

Sometimes You Win, Sometimes You Learn

I've founded or co-founded nine companies. Some have been very successful. Some have been failures — real ones, the kind where you genuinely don't know if you'll keep going. My own way of putting it is: sometimes you win, sometimes you learn. My job as a coach isn't just to help you grow. It's also to help you avoid the mistakes that nearly took me out, because I've been scared about a Friday wage bill too, more than once, and I remember exactly how small the world feels when you think you're the only one who's ever felt that way.

You don't need a coach booked by tomorrow to start somewhere honest. Ask yourself this week:

  • Is the thing exhausting me the business itself, or the fact that I'm carrying it with no one to talk it through with?
  • If a trusted friend ran this exact business, what would I tell them to do right now?
  • When did I last make a decision with someone who wasn't afraid to disagree with me?

"One of the highlight presentations during OMP. Really enjoyed your wisdom and insight — thanks Kevin!"

— Liz Wotherspoon, Director, The Icehouse

What This Isn't

This isn't a pitch dressed up as empathy, and it isn't a diagnosis of what's wrong with you — exhaustion like this is common, not a character flaw, and it's worth taking seriously rather than pushing through on autopilot. It also isn't a sign you picked the wrong business or the wrong life. Plenty of owners who went on to build something they're proud of felt exactly this tired at exactly this point. If you've already got a genuine peer, co-founder or board you lean on honestly, you may not need this right now. If the honest answer to "who did I last disagree with productively" is "I can't remember," that's the gap worth closing.

Key Takeaways

  • Separate the business from the isolation. Often it's the second one that's actually unsustainable.
  • Ask for a second opinion before it's a crisis, not after.
  • Remember you're not an outlier. 40% of US owners have had this exact thought.
  • Test whether you've got a real sparring partner in the business right now — not just people who agree with you.

You can do this. Not because it'll be easy from here — because the version of you that's been doing it entirely alone was always carrying more than it should have had to. That doesn't change overnight, but it starts changing the moment one other person is properly in the picture with you.

Kevin works personally with a select group of SME owners to build the clarity and support that make carrying this alone unnecessary — not a guarantee, just a far better way to do it.

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