Saturday, October 31, 2026
46% of NZ small business owners aren't paying themselves. Here's why that has to change, and the three moves that build it into a real habit, not a hope.
You cancelled the weekend away again. Something always comes up — a staff issue, a client crisis, a decision that "only you" can make. You tell yourself it's temporary, that once this quarter settles down you'll finally get some space back. It's never once settled down, not in years.
If you can't step away long enough to even ask whether a coach is worth it, that's not a reason to skip the question. It's the reason to ask it.
Since 2017 I've coached 200+ businesses one-on-one across 30+ industries, and I've been on both sides of this — the owner who couldn't say no, and the coach helping someone else learn to.
Nobody says this out loud, but almost every exhausted owner believes it: needing outside help is admitting you can't cope. It's the opposite. The businesses that actually scale past the owner's own ceiling are run by people who got comfortable asking someone else to look at what they couldn't see themselves — not because they were weak, but because one person's view of their own business is always partial.
I used to struggle badly with saying no — to clients, to opportunities, to requests that weren't mine to say yes to. If you say yes to people, you are helping them achieve their goal and you're not achieving yours. I eventually started blocking my own diary, on fixed days, just to protect space to think. None of that happened because I decided to try harder. It happened because something outside my own head — a structure, an accountability point — made it stick.
"Kevin D'Ambros-Smith presented on the Icehouse Owner Manager Programme and he was brilliant… it was the most notes I have ever taken from any speaker."
— Steve Holloway, Founder, Between Two Beers Podcast
Owners wait because it feels like admitting defeat, or because "I don't have time to even look into it" feels true. It is true — and it's also exactly the problem a first conversation is for. You don't need to have stepped away to start; you need one conversation that doesn't ask you to solve everything first.
This isn't for you if the idea of someone holding you accountable, out loud, every week, feels worse than staying stuck.
Kevin works personally with a select group of SME owners to build the accountability and capability that make stepping back far more likely — not accidental.
Tuesday, October 06, 2026
A pleasant weekly chat and a structured coaching session can look identical from the outside. Here's exactly what should be happening in the room if the second one is real.
Tuesday, October 06, 2026
Most SME task lists have no visible connection to the goal on the whiteboard. OKRs fix that gap in three simple steps, without turning your week into a spreadsheet exercise.
Tuesday, October 06, 2026
Giving away a free sample, audit or pilot feels like it removes risk for the prospect. Mostly it just removes their reason to commit. Here's the structure that converts instead.
Monday, October 05, 2026
There is no single best business coach in the USA. Here are five criteria for choosing one, a fair look at the main formats, and why an outside perspective can change what you see in your own business.
Monday, October 05, 2026
Eighty-four percent of small business owners sacrifice health or relationships to their business, new 2026 data shows. Here is the Transferability Number test that shows why, and what to fix first.
Monday, October 05, 2026
You're about to have your busiest quarter of the year. If nobody's planned for it, your bank balance is about to go the wrong way at exactly the moment the business looks like it's winning.
Monday, October 05, 2026
Ask most owners what they do and they'll answer instantly. Ask them why their business exists, beyond making money, and watch the pause. That pause is costing you customers, hires and referrals.
Monday, October 05, 2026
Ask your team to name the business's single most important goal this quarter. Five different answers from five people means you have one problem, not twelve: nobody knows what the goal actually is.
Monday, October 05, 2026
You trained your team to build rapport and never push, and your best customer last quarter still went with the competitor who pushed them to rethink the brief. Here's why relationship-selling is the weakest profile in B2B sales.
Monday, October 05, 2026
You've boosted the posts, hired the agency, rewritten the website twice, and the phone still isn't ringing. Before you spend another dollar, ask whether a stranger could explain what makes you different in one sentence.
Monday, October 05, 2026
Your competitor just launched the move you'd been 'finalising' for six months. Here's the fifty-year-old decision framework that fixes the real problem: not your strategy, your decision speed.
Sunday, October 04, 2026
EOS, Scaling Up, Vistage, ActionCOACH or Simple-Growth? A fair comparison with best-for and not-ideal-if for each option, a fit matrix and a nine-question quiz.
Sunday, October 04, 2026
What does a business coach cost in New Zealand? Published monthly and hourly ranges, cheaper options, how RBPN co-funding can help, and a checklist for judging value.
Sunday, October 04, 2026
New 2026 global research shows trust alone only earns a brand 48 percent acceptance into new territory - relevance takes it to 71 percent. Here is the two-question test that finds the real gap before you spend on expansion.
Sunday, October 04, 2026
The personal touch that built your reputation at ten staff quietly becomes the bottleneck that breaks it at thirty. Here is how to turn a habit into a system before it costs you.